Joe and I were married almost two years ago this coming February. We have what is now known as a "blended family." My kids are to the left there. I had no idea 20 years ago when I graduated high school, went on to college, where my life was going to go or end up at. As I sit here in the dining room with my family — I reflect on how I ended up here, and I am so thankful for all that has happened to me, and am thankful for my "unconventional family."
Everyone thought we were crazy (I think) because Joe had four teens and I had one teen, and we were getting married. I can't tell you how many people questioned me about it. I knew without a shadow of a doubt that the Lord brought Joe and I together, and knew without a shadow of a doubt that if He brought us together that He would make this possible. I had several mature Christians tell me that it was going to be very difficult. I told them I didn't receive that. (respectfully) 🙂
The Lord gave me a scripture early on before I'd even decided to date Joe — it was Josh. 24:15 "As for me and my family we will serve the Lord." I held onto that. I remember praying that if marrying Joe and his children was the Lord's will, that I would hear this scripture from my Pastor to me. A few days later our Pastor did an alter call, and we went forward for prayer. Three times in a row my Pastor hollared that scripture, and looked directly at Joe and I. That did it for me. Although periodically I would have fears about what I was doing, I knew that if the Lord was with me, that He must have something great in store.
Well, He did. As we celebrate my daughter's birthday (12/23), and the start of our early Christmas, due to unconventional families (those who have gone through divorce know that you usually have to share your children during the holidays) I get to watch and listen to them play with one of their new toys that the Lord allowed us to bless them with. Rock Band 2!!! They are interacting with each other, laughing hysterically, and I'm just loving this whole thing.
Has it been easy? Not all the time, but I can tell you that my heart feels so full right now, and I am so thankful to the Lord for my "unconventional family." All families have challenges, conventional or unconventional. Our children are doing good in school, don't do drugs or alcohol, attend church and youth groups without us prompting them, and they love the Lord. I love them so much — if I knew back then what I know now — I would do it all again.
Merry Christmas to all of you. Blessings to all of you who read this, and those who don't read it. If you happened upon this, and you have a blended family I would love to chat with you and connect with you. It's not always easy, but with the Lord's help, it is possible!